Book Commercials & Misanthropic Observations

God is your one true and holy GOD, not your husband or boyfriend

Paul and I once got to hear a testimony about God’s grace in healing a marriage. This couple was so open and honest about their struggles, we all gave glory to God for the restoration of their broken relationship.

In the midst of this moving story, there was one sentence that stuck in my craw, and I felt like such a curmudgeon about it. But I have thought about it A LOT since then, I stand by my original reaction and feel better able to explain what is wrong.

We’ve all heard it at least once in our lifetime. Some sweet Christian woman says “My Husband is …(Insert issue here) but I’m OK because I turned to God to be my husband”. Now, I understand the point these women are trying to make, that they have needs and expectations that their husband, and, sometimes, no person could ever meet and they have learned to turn to God in his all sufficiency. (at least I hope that is thier point) Everyone around me seemed to think this so wonderful, and wise and Christian. But, well, I thought it was twisted.

First, No, it’s not OK that your husband (whatever here). And it’s OK for you not to be OK with it. You will forgive (whatever), when you understand the depth of what God has forgiven you and how it could never ever compare to what you have to forgive. I’m also guessing your husband has been awfully forgiving with you at least once… However, it is right and healthy to not be OK with something that is wrong. AND to expect your husband to be your husband is a correct application of expectations. Speak up, girl. Speak TRUTH With love, SPEAK UP to HIM.

NOTE: Not to your girlfriends. Do not bond over what bastards your husbands are as you “share how to hold each other up in prayer”, each encouraging the other that you “put up with so much and need strength to go on”- oh, I’m going off on another tangent I feel very strongly about. I digress.

Back to the point: Any sentence that actually refers to God as your (stand in) husband is trite and belittles the majesty of God. His grace is the very cause of your next breath. His power holds this world together. I know this is what you meant, honey, but your choice of words is repellent. You are Ok, more than ok, a new creation, because God is your God. He holds you in his hands. He will meet your every need in the midst of whatever life and your marriage throws your way. Your husband can’t do this, he’s only human – And God is not anyone’s husband or boyfriend. He is SO MUCH MORE.

I think about blogging…

3 cheers for the sweet old bra fitting lady in the lingerie department!!!

Living emotionally with your own husband, what a concept

Hannah is a sewing queen

I didn’t know it was possible to actually put a huge gouge in my bobbin case as I broke a needle, spun the case 180, and jammed up the whole machine – now where do I order a new bobbin case online?

They were all very interesting and witty, I enjoyed them much in my own mind. These days however, I am much more into sewing than typing.

I hate turing tests

I use them myself, because spambots are everywhere- but a majority of the time I don’t comment on blogs because I hate doing the turing test 2 or 3 times. People ruin everything with thier spam, now we all gotta do this annoying extra step.

Dear Mom

Thank you for the phone calls and the card! Do you have an email address? That would be so much easier than playing phone tag, I think. If you don’t have one, do you want a dopkins.net email address? I’ll gladly set you up.

I went to the Lunette Optic site hoping to find you in an contact us section. Nice site- very clean and attractive. Good colors.

Love, Brandy

huh…

I just noticed this skin doesn’t support my linkroll- Sorry faithcom coalition, I will edit this myself someday. I didn’t cut anyone out on purpose, so don’t worry Erin, we are not in a fight.

I want to be like them

Our friends Greg and Nancy Fuchs flew in from Santa Barbara and we got to have dinner with them and their wonderful, precious daughter Anna on Saturday. They both have PhDs, so we affectionately refer to them as The Doctors Fuchs. This is relevant to one thing I admire about both of them, which is this:
They are brilliant and unassuming.

They are fully aware that they are experts in their field- the phrase “their field” is key- they do not think they know everything, nor do they act as if their degree makes them Doctors of all of life. Nancy talks about a neighbor who is a linguist and her neighbor’s husband who is a history teacher: Nancy loves and respects their knowledge and admits it’s Greek to her (literally in the case of the linguist, I would guess). This is just one example, I could list more. I want to be like that - super smart and still just real people.

Good feedback from good friends

Ed and Vonda told me that they found this blog difficult to read- the colors were not high enough contrast. I kinda knew that, but wasn’t ready to make anything better and so just sorta tried to ignore it. I appreciate friends who give me the truth- even something so small as a needed change in design. Thanks Rankins. This is a stock skin and it’ll do until I feel like making my own better design.